View Full Version : Back to HS-need advice and help

03-24-2012, 08:29 AM
Hi All,
I have a 6 yr old son-adopted internationally recently diagnosed with attachment disorder (RAD), sensory processing disorder (SPD), and ADHD. I also have a bio son...now 15 months...our 10th anniversary shock whose arrival really triggered lots of yuck from my older son. :unsure: I briefly homeschooled my son last fall, which was the beginning of his K year. It was a disaster for 2 weeks, and it was painfully obvious that it would never work. I enrolled him in public school to keep everyone safe, and we began our current journey through a myriad of attachment therapy, OT, and biomedical interventions. We are now doing something called Neurological Reorganization (replacing OT) along with the others. We have made great strides since last August, however we are finding it difficult to get all of his therapy work completed around school. In an amazing show of support, my mom turned in her notice at work to stay home full time to help me with my boys. We will hunker down and work intensely on therapy work in addition to homeschooling him again in the fall.
I have done a search in this forum, and I have seen a few other parents who are doing FIAR with RAD/ADHD kids...as well as doing NR! I'd love to hear how that is working...what works...what doesn't...etc. I have no illusions that this will be an easy undertaking. Parenting him hasn't been easy, adopting him wasn't easy, so why would this be easy?? :lol:
Thoughts, help, encouragement, telling me I'm insane?? I'm open to anything :roflol:

03-24-2012, 02:01 PM
:hi:I have three children adopted from foster care. Two of them have RAD (very mild) ,and possibly ADHD as well, although it hasn't been formally diaganosed.
I am not familar with NR ,but we are still doing attachment therapy. It has worked wonders. Really until you get to the root of the attachment, your child will get nowhere in any other area of life.:sad: That said, I do know how hard it is to homeschool this type of child. :group: Don't you love it when people say adopting is "the easy way" to have kids?? :no: so not true!!!

I commend you (and your mom) for attempting to homeschool again, I truly think kids like ours are not served well being in the school system, there are too many influences that can cause major problems, not only that, but there is no way to form attachment to your parent when the child is gone 8 or so hours a day.:sad:
sorry, I don't have any real great answers for you, but we do use FIAR with our two kids, age 5 and 8. They really thrive on it, and have come to love the closeness of sitting next to me for our story,and discussion,(it was not that way in the beginning!)
I've also been able to work in some therapeutic things when talking about stories like Ping, or Angus Lost... relating them in a "safe " way to things that had happened in their past.
If you have any specific questions, I'd be glad to help if I can.

Hollie in SC
03-24-2012, 02:38 PM
:hi: :group::group: Welcome to FIAR and the Special Needs board.:group:

03-24-2012, 02:57 PM
Hi Pam and welcome!
I have two boys with a lot of letters by their names, and a sweet little girl as well. My oldest has similar issues to your oldest, even though he wasn't adopted, because of the trauma and severe pain he experienced for the first several months of life due to medical issues and complications related to that. We aren't doing the NR you are doing but we do therapies and a lot of specialists because of chronic illnesses. It is wonderful that you have the support of your mom. That is going to help tremendously, because you're not in it alone. It's like Amy said. I am homeschooling because my child wasn't being served in the school system. My boys have a lot of behavior issues but they are not bad kids. I am homeschooling them because I love them and can see who they are through the behaviors... other teachers may be able to, or maybe not... it's all up to chance. And it's just not possible for them to receive the individualized attention and accomodations they need in the school setting. This is our 2nd year. It's been really hard! But also rewarding. I have decided this year to do it for the long term. It's taken me this long to feel at all confident with what I'm doing. I've changed a lot of things and it just takes time to adapt and find what works as a homeschool parent (even with typical kids) and to find your way, what works with your family. That is the best thing about homeschooling, that you have the freedom to do what works for you.

Susan in Kentucky
03-26-2012, 07:41 PM
Just wanted you to know that I am glad you are here, friend!

Looking forward to the adventure with you!

Rachel Jane
03-26-2012, 08:19 PM
:hi: Welcome!

Julie Y
03-27-2012, 10:27 AM
I'm glad you've joined us, Pam! :hi:

Sunshine C
03-27-2012, 10:32 AM
Welcome Pam! :hi: